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Friday, June 19, 2026

If You Have Lost a Spouse: What Can You Rely On in Grief?

 

If You Have Lost a Spouse: What Can You Rely On in Grief?
Temporary separation till we meet again in Heaven
If you have lost a spouse through death, you know grief changes everything. And if you have not yet experienced that loss, most of us will one day face it with someone we love. In those moments, what can we truly rely on for hope? What does Scripture say about heaven, eternity, and those who have gone before us?

These reflections are written from a Christian perspective—centered on those who follow Jesus Christ and understand salvation not as something earned by good works, but received as a free gift of grace through faith in Him. That distinction matters, because many people assume they are “Christian” by moral effort or tradition without ever engaging the deeper question Scripture raises: what does it mean to truly belong to Christ?

When grief becomes personal, questions about heaven are no longer abstract. They are not merely theological ideas to discuss, but deeply human longings that arise in the quiet moments after loss. Because of that, it matters where we go for answers. Our emotions are real, but not always reliable guides. Memories are precious, but they cannot reveal eternity. So we turn to something steadier—Scripture.

People don’t always believe in scripture. And we can put our own interpretation on scripture. We have to remember, we are not God.

Everything depends on the Resurrection of Jesus. Once we believe that, then the Holy Spirit gives us enlightenment and joy, peace and contentment. But that is for another article!

Questions we can ask when we face grief

Does the Bible say people in heaven can see us

Can people in heaven pray for us

What happens after death

What is the Christian view of heaven

Is there hope after death

Do loved ones in heaven know what happens on earth

The grand reunion

Biblical hope in grief

What does the Bible say about heaven

Christian grief comfort

Eternal life in Christ


What Does Scripture Actually Say?

The Bible does not answer every question we might have about heaven in detail. It does not fully describe everything those who have died in Christ experience or know regarding life on earth. But it does give us clear and steady truths: those who belong to Jesus are alive with Him, death is not the end of personal existence, and nothing—not even death—can separate God’s people from His love.

As the apostle Paul writes in the book of Epistle to the Romans: 8:38-39

“Neither death nor life… will be able to separate us from the love of God that is in Christ Jesus our Lord.”

That does not answer every curiosity about heaven, but it establishes something unshakable: those who are in Christ are secure in Him—both now and forever.

It is also important to understand what Scripture means when it speaks of belonging to Christ. It does not define this identity as something earned through moral effort, religious tradition, or good works. Instead, it describes receiving God’s grace through faith in Jesus. This matters, because many people assume Christianity is primarily about trying to live a good life. But at its core, the Christian message is not human achievement—it is divine gift.


What Christians Have Thought About Heaven and Awareness

Christians who take Scripture seriously have not all come to identical conclusions about what those in heaven know or experience regarding life on earth. While there is strong agreement on the core truths—that believers are alive with Christ and secure in Him—there is more diversity when it comes to questions Scripture does not explicitly answer.

Some, such as pastor and author Erwin W. Lutzer in One Minute After You Die, emphasize careful restraint. He focuses on what Scripture clearly teaches and avoids going beyond it. From this perspective, questions about awareness of earthly events or involvement in them are left open.

Others, such as Randy Alcorn in Heaven, explore those questions more fully. He carefully distinguishes between what Scripture explicitly states and what it may suggest. He points to passages such as Revelation’s descriptions of heavenly awareness as possible indications that those in heaven may have some knowledge of earthly events and may bring concerns before God, while still avoiding absolute certainty.

Still others, like Jennifer Rothschild in When Faith Becomes Sight, emphasize trust over speculation. Her focus is not on answering every detail about heaven, but on resting in the character of God when we cannot yet see clearly. Faith, in her writing, matters more than full understanding.

And finally, authors like John Burke in Imagine Heaven include near-death experience accounts as additional reflections on what heaven may be like. These stories often describe peace, awareness, and relational connection. While not a replacement for Scripture, they are presented as possible supportive testimony that aligns with biblical themes of life beyond death.

Taken together, these perspectives form not a single answer, but a spectrum of Christian reflection—ranging from strict caution, to theological exploration, to pastoral trust, to experiential testimony.


So What Can We Hold Onto With Confidence?

After considering Scripture and these reflections, we are still left with unanswered questions. The Bible does not give a detailed description of everything those in heaven may know or do regarding life on earth. But it does give something far more important than complete information—it gives certainty about God Himself.

Those who die in Christ are not lost, forgotten, or disconnected from Him. They are alive in His presence, held securely in His love, and fully known by Him.

That means the deepest comfort for grieving hearts is not found in the details of what heaven is like, but in the character of the One who holds both heaven and earth. Nothing can separate those in Christ from His love—not even death itself.

So can those in heaven pray for us, or be aware of us, or continue to care for us? Scripture does not give a direct, definitive answer to every aspect of that question. It does, however, give glimpses of a living, conscious, worshiping heaven, where God’s people are present with Him and aligned with His purposes. Because of that, some Christian thinkers see room for continued awareness and concern, while others prefer to remain silent where Scripture is silent.

In the end, Christian hope is not built on certainty about heavenly mechanics, but on certainty about Christ. If we belong to Him, then those we have lost in Him are not beyond His care—and neither are we.

And for those walking through grief, perhaps the most important truth is this: even when we cannot fully see what heaven is like, we can trust the One who is already there.

You may have questions of your own not answered here…

After considering Scripture and the different ways Christians have reflected on heaven, we are still left with some unanswered questions. The Bible does not give us a detailed description of everything those in heaven may know or do regarding life on earth. But it does give us something far more important than complete information—it gives us certainty about God Himself. Those who die in Christ are not lost, forgotten, or disconnected from Him. They are alive in His presence, held securely in His love, and fully known by Him.

My conclusion reflects on the peaceful passing of Naomi, expressing my deep faith and sense of comfort in her transition to heaven. It highlights themes of hope, reunion, and assurance that Naomi’s spirit now resides in a place of eternal love and joy, with the promise of meeting Jesus Christ face to face.

Naomi’s Peaceful Transition

When my beloved wife Naomi took her final breath on earth, I found myself enveloped by a profound sense of peace that surpassed understanding. While the pain of loss lingered, my heart was assured that Naomi’s journey was not over but simply transformed. My faith tells me that Naomi’s spirit was welcomed into heaven—her true home—where love, joy, and eternal connection await.

Naomi’s First Experience: Face to Face with Jesus Christ after being escorted into His presence by angels. I can only imagine what that was like. Her love of Jesus and her life lived for His glory, and then finally seeing Him face to face.

Naomi’s First Experience in Eternity

I can only imagine the awe and peace that must have flooded Naomi’s soul as she took her first steps into the realm where faith becomes sight. After her final breath Naomi was gently escorted by angels into the very presence of Jesus Christ. It is a moment beyond the grasp of earthly words: the Savior she loved so deeply, whose life and teachings shaped her every day, now standing before her, face to face.

Years of devotion, worship, and longing culminated in this sacred encounter. Naomi’s heart, which had always beat with love for her Lord, must have overflowed as she gazed into the eyes of the One who gave His life for her. The joy of meeting Jesus, unfiltered and unmediated, is the fulfillment of every hope, every prayer, every act of trust she ever offered.

A Family Reunion Like No Other

But the wonders of heaven did not end there. Soon, Naomi was reunited with her beloved mom and dad, her sister, and her brother and my mother—the family who had gone before her. And her Jewish grandmother who also came to believe in Jesus. Naomi was born after her grandmother died…but that reunion must have been something!  The embrace of loved ones long missed, the laughter and the tears of reunion, filled this new beginning with profound comfort and joy. Their bonds, never broken by time or distance, were now restored in a place where sorrow and separation are no more.

And then, I can only imagine, but speculate…that all the patients that Naomi visited during her brief time in Buckhorn Kentucky as a rural health nurse, driving her jeep up the hollers visiting people she had never seen before. Greeting her. What a reunion!

Fellowship with the Saints

And so began Naomi’s eternal fellowship—not just with her own family, but with countless others she had only known from the pages of her Bible. She met the heroes of the faith, the witnesses who inspired her journey: Abraham, Moses, Mary, Peter, and so many more. Together, they worshiped the Lamb, sharing stories of grace, redemption, and God’s unending love.

In heaven, Naomi’s journey continues—her worship deeper, her joy complete, her love fulfilled. Surrounded by the great cloud of witnesses, she sings, rejoices, and lives forever in the presence of the King she so cherished on earth. And she awaits her bodily physical resurrection on the new earth.

What a reunion. What glory. What hope for all who share Naomi’s faith and await the day when they, too, will see Jesus face to face. And I, Richard, have to remember that I will see Naomi again soon, our time apart is just a short temporary separation.

Thursday, August 15, 2024

The Rich View for today

Waiting on the Lord. https://faithvisionservice.com/ “Trust in the LORD with all your heart, and do not lean on your own understanding. In all your ways acknowledge him, and he will make straight your paths.” Proverbs 3:3-6 English Standard Version (ESV) My motto or major scripture verse of the past few years. “When the time is right, I the Lord will make it happen.” Isaiah 60:22 Before you leave! A short message and prayer for our children and grandchildren! Yes, you can change the world for eternity! Someone before us did by praying for us! We are who we are and where we are because of someone in the past who may have prayed for their offspring…children and grandchildren. ..and may still be praying for us wherever they are.  “The LORD bless you and keep you; the LORD make his face shine on you and be gracious to you; the LORD turn his face toward you and give you peace.” ’ Numbers 6:24-26 NIV Let’s do the same!

Friday, May 22, 2020

The Key to Joy!

The Key to Joy: It's all about "Relationships", "Communication" and "Forgiveness"!....



As my good friend Ron says, "It's all about relationships".

 With "social media"...it's about "friends", "connections" and "followers".

If you can't wait to get to the end of this post...It's all about Forgiveness!


Over the course of time, I have added, "Yes, and it's all about Communication."
Communication, Communication, Communication.

All about Relationships: Yes, with Jesus through God our Father...and then relationship with each other.

To develop any relationship, we need to listen and to communicate.

So it's all about Communication, Communication Communication.

With God, we communicate through Prayer.

With each other, we communicate in many ways.

But in any relationship...even with the best of Relationship and Communication, we mess up. It's called sin.

With God we can repent and ask for forgiveness.

So to complete the circle...I have added yes, and it's all about Forgiveness.
Forgiveness, Forgiveness, Forgiveness.

"To forgive is to set a prisoner free and discover the prisoner was you." -Corrie ten Boom



Just as we can have a relationship with God, through Jesus Christ and with each other...We can communicate our love  and needs to Him and also to other...but in the process we have a tendency to mess up. But again, we can ask God for forgiveness...and as He has made His forgiveness available to us, we then also need to forgive each other.


Alot of times...when there is a lack of joy in our lives and we have forgiven others and ourselves...we might forget to forgive our parents for real or imaginary hurts. Perception is real. 



"Therefore, as God's chosen people, holy and clearly loved, clothe yourselves with compassion, kindness, humility, gentleness and patience. Bear with each other and forgive whatever grievances you may have against one another. Forgive as the LORD forgave you. And over all these virtues put on love, which binds them all together in perfect unity."  Romans 3:12-14

As Eugene H. Peterson says in The Message: Matthew 6: "In prayer there is a connection between what God does and what you do. You can't get forgiveness from God, for instance, without also forgiving others. If you refuse to do your part, you cut yourself off from God's part." 

"To forgive is to set a prisoner free and discover the prisoner was you." -Corrie ten Boom

  So how can we NOT forgive others?

As we truly experience God's forgiveness and grace, it's then pretty easy to forgive others! Or at least it should be!


So, do we have joy?



If not, might be a good time to examine our relationships with others...our spouse, family members and maybe more important to examine our relationships with our parents...if we still have living parents. 

I also remember a verse from the Bible in Exodus 20:12  "Honor your father and your mother, so that you may live long in the land the LORD your God is giving you."


So don't forget to forgive parents, even if they are long gone! Time is short, eternity is long.  

As Don Wilkerson says, "Never be defined by your past. It's a lesson not a life sentence.”

"To forgive is to set a prisoner free and discover the prisoner was you." -Corrie ten Boom

 "Behold, how good and how pleasant it is for brethren to dwell together in unity." Psalm 133:1
As Dietrich Bonhoeffer In Life Together says, "this is the Scriptures' praise of life together under the Word. But now we can rightly interpret the words "in unity" and say, "for brethren to dwell together through Christ."  For Jesus Christ alone is our unity. "He is our peace.
Through him alone do we have access to one another, joy in one another, and fellowship with one another."

A parent's greatest joy is found in this verse: "I have no greater joy than to hear that  my children are walking in the truth." 3 John:4

When we do that...we can truly have JOY!


Wednesday, March 18, 2020

Plannng and it's importance

Pray, Plan and Prioritize...then delegate.

But don't get hung up on planning...the LORD can intervene at any moment and you can change direction! Keep your ears open!

"You already know the ultimate destination of your journey: your entrance into heaven. So keep your focus on the path just before you, leaving outcomes up to Me" Nov 19th Devotion from Jesus Calling by Sarah Young.

A few notes on "Planning" from the book of Proverbs:

"For a man's ways are in full view of the LORD, and he examines all his paths." Proverbs 5:21

"Commit to the LORD whatever you do, and your plans will succeed." Proverbs 16:3

"In his heart a man plans his course, but the LORD determines his steps." Proverbs 16:9

"Many are the plans in a man's heart, but it is the LORD'S purpose that prevails." Proverbs 19:21

"The plans of the diligent lead to profit as surely as haste leads to poverty." Proverbs 21:5

"Do not boast about tomorrow, for you do not know what a day may bring forth." Proverbs 27:1

We have to remember that these are observations...reality, not promises from the Bible. Our actions have consequences.


So, be sure to pray before making plans...and continue to pray!
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Finished a good book recently: WHO  by Geoff Smart and Randy Street.

"The most important decisions that business people make are not what decisions but who decisions." -Jim Collins, Author of Good To Great.

That also goes for non profit organizations!
 Good book: Good to Great in the Social Sector. by Jim Collins

WHO
WHAT
HOW

It's relatively easy to figure out What to do and also How to do something.

Maybe a more important decision is WHY we do what we do.
What are our motives? Have we sought the LORD on what we plan to do?

Then the rest becomes easy.

A good book for figuring that out is " Start With Why by Simon Sinek.

If you don't know WHY, You can't know HOW.

"All great leaders have clarity of WHY; an undying belief in a purpose or cause bigger than themselves. It's not Bill Gates's passion for computers that inspires us, it's his undying optimism that even the most complicated problems can be solved. He believes we can find ways to remove obstacles to ensure that everyone can live and worked to their greatest potential. It is his optimism to which we are drawn." P. 134



“If the leader of the organization can’t clearly articulate WHY the organization exists in terms beyond its products or services, then how does he expect the employees to know WHY to come to work?”
Simon Sinek, Start With Why: How Great Leaders Inspire Everyone To Take Action

Let me know your thoughts!
Have a great day!

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Friday, March 6, 2020

System for making Decisions: : Corona Virus

Whatever your most pressing decision is: Here is a good system for evaluating risk!


 Best/Worst Analysis  
B/WA Formula
 Notes taken from the book by Ben Carson,
 TAKE THE RISK: Learning to Identify, Choose, and Live with Acceptable Risk.
I would summarize one of the most important insights I took from the book as “How to make decisions without leaving God out of the equation!
Risk Analysis Process

You can print this and use as a template for decision making.

Questions to ask when making a decision:
What is the best thing that can happen if I do this?
What is the worst thing that can happen if I do this?
What is the best thing that can happen if I don’t do it?
What is the worst thing that can happen if I don’t do it?

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The rest of this post are My comments on his 4 questions.

Ask these questions in light of the following:
Outcomes may change over time because of changing conditions!
Who?
What?
Where?
When?
How?
Why?
Answering these familiar queries in the context of the four basic Best/Worst Analysis questions will sharpen the focus and refine the accuracy of any risk analysis process
WHERE
Where are you going? (Your goals)
Where are you now? (Your skills, your abilities, your thinking, and your attitudes)
Where will you start? (Your preparation)
WHEN
Often the timing of a Best/Worst Analysis affects our conclusion.
Always do a B/WA again whenever you think something has changed significantly: a year later, at a different point in life, or maybe after pondering some of these who, what, when,  how, and why considerations. Times change. So do circumstances. Sometimes those changes will affect your Best/Worst Analysis, modifying your thinking-maybe even reversing your decision.
HOW
You don’t have to address who, what, where, when, how, and why in any particular order.  They may need to be viewed simultaneously because they sometimes complement each other or need to be combined.
Sometimes answering one of the (how or?) conclusions may change your risk-analysis equation entirely.
WHY
It is impossible to do an effective B/WA without considering why. You need to examine, and often re examine, your reasoning in light of your motives, which involve your personal values.  Your values must be weighed carefully against you’re analyses and conclusions. 
Some Truths About RISK
1.                  Everything is Risky
2.                  The more we know, the more we worry.
3.                  A Lot of Risks Aren’t Worth the Worry.
4.                  We Can’t Eliminate All Risk
5.                  Minimizing Risk Is Often the Best We Can Do.
6.                  Each of Us Has to Decide What the Acceptable Risks Are
7.                  Not All Risks Are Bad
8.                  We Are All Going to Die of Something Eventually
 
Risk Number One-Thinking in New Ways

Risk Number Two-Weighing the Alternatives

Risk Number Three-Making Your Own Decision

Even when the Best/Worse Analysis doesn’t result in a particularly positive outcome, you are unlikely to have a worse outcome because you did the analysis, and what a B/WA does guarantee is that you consider the various possibilities in a reasonable, logical manner before making any uncertain or risky decision. That has to improve the odds that you come up with a happy solution-or at least with a reasonable and defensible course of action that will minimize the risk of regrets.
Need to weigh risks in light of my beliefs and my values. My obligations to others should be greater than any obligations to myself.

Since I believe God’s guidance and provision has brought me to this point, I should ask Him to open the doors He wants me to walk through and to give me wisdom in how to proceed.

Importance of using my talents and not allow minor interferences to derail my mission if life.
Creativity requires risk, so does exploration and innovation. Anyone who thinks outside the box is taking a risk.

In doing this risk analysis, one needs to consider the implications of any decision, not just for one’s self but for other people. How will my decision impact others?

Taking Us Out of the Middle
Once we manage to remove our egos from the equation, many of the most commonplace and unsettling personal risks we face in life become a lot less personal and no longer seem to be much of a risk after all.  That discovery frees us up to better concentrate on dealing with the real risks presented by truly important issues.

A few added thoughts: "Destiny is not a mystery. For better or worse, your destiny is the result of your daily decisions and defining decisions."  Mark Batterson. The Circle Maker.

"Along with daily decisions, there are defining decisions. We only make a few defining decisions in life, and then we spend the rest of our lives managing them." Mark Batterson. The Circle Maker. 
Something to pray about!


My Tweets for the day 

 

Important decision to make! 

Friday, January 17, 2020

Why I Get Up in the Morning



 To continue in my relationship with God, through His Son Jesus Christ, so that  I can:
1.     Be close to Him
2.     Worship Him
3.     Be a fragrant offering to Him
4.     To be a reflection of God into the world
5.     Be Holy as He is holy
6.     Show His love to the world…my family and neighbors
7.     Be an encouragement to people who He brings in my path
8.      

Pastor Matts sermon on August 25th 2019  Prayer as Soul Shaping
     Prayer As -Soul Shaping With God.
Praying regularly for others
My limitations do NOT limit what God can do in prayer!
Colossians 1:9 

For this reason, since the day we heard about you, we have not stopped praying for you. We continually ask God to fill you with the knowledge of his will through all the wisdom and understanding that the Spirit gives,[

Praying for knowledge of God’s will through all spiritual wisdom and understanding…
Praying to Live Worthy of the Lord

Colossians 1:10-14
 10 so that you may live a life worthy of the Lord and please him in every way: bearing fruit in every good work, growing in the knowledge of God, 11 being strengthened with all power according to his glorious might so that you may have great endurance and patience, 12 and giving joyful thanks to the Father, who has qualified you[a] to share in the inheritance of his holy people in the kingdom of light. 13 For he has rescued us from the dominion of darkness and brought us into the kingdom of the Son he loves, 14 in whom we have redemption, the forgiveness of sins.

1                 Bear fruit of the Spirit
2                 Knowledge of God
3                 Patience
4                 Joy and gratitude

Bottom Line:
Living it out…not just knowledge or words, but Blooming Where I am planted …now.

Thursday, March 14, 2019

Reflections on The Parable of "The Unforgiving Servant." Matthew: 18:21-35




Why did Peter ask the question?

Was he repeatedly hurt by a brother? Or is this just a story that Jesus told to illustrate a point or teaching?

The obvious lesson of the parable is “Unlimited Forgiveness”

We can all agree on that!  Right? Ok?

But there may or can be more to the story as Paul Harvey used to say.

Something specific that the LORD wants THIS group to understand.

When we are repeatedly hurt…and really do forgive the person…are we immediately healed of the hurt?

Not necessarily!

Example of friend who was repeatedly hurt…and forgave the people…but had a sort of “low grade fever”. As he said.  Not really incapacitated, but like feeling alittle under the weather so to speak. 

Divorce, estranged family members, etc.

Some things are easy to forgive. But there may be bigger things that we haven’t fully dealt with. Maybe don’t know how to or what to do next.

Process:

1.    Need to see the person, not just in light of how he or she hurt, wronged us,…, but through God’s eyes.

2.    Then we can/may see him or her as the wounded and weak one he or she really is.

3.    Whether the person unintentionally or intentionally hurt us, the process is the same.

4.    Forgiving people who hurt us on a day to day basis enables us to forgive those who have deeply wounded us. Not just a one time event.

5.    Healing starts with asking Jesus into this process and into our heart and mind. Only Jesus can heal completely.

A few steps:

6.    Name the ways you were hurt and the sin done to you.

7.    Perception vs. Reality…

8.    Tell God how you feel. Speak from your heart.

9.    Ask Him to show you what He does with the sin that was done against or to you.

10.Ask Him to cleanse and heal you. 


11.Now, choose to forgive the person.

12.Easier said than done. You already have forgiven the person,,,right?

13.Ask God to forgive the person.

14.Now confess to the Lord the sin (your sin) of holding onto unforgiveness and it’s effects on you…all these years. 

15.Relationships MAY be restored…not maybe not always.

16.Reconciliation is NOT always possible.

17.It may take time…

18.Forgiveness has been started.

19.Healing may take time.


20.With Jesus living in us and empowering us to forgive…we can then forgive those who have hurt us. 

21.“Forgive us our debts, as we also have forgiven our debtors…Mat. 6:12

22.Unforgiveness effects our relationship with God and others.

23.It’s NOT just an issue we have with one particular brother…

24.It effects ALL our relationships. Our spouses, children, parents especially, and the our co workers, neighbors, friends, relatives, CHURCH members!

What is Sin? Real or imaginary? Perception is Reality!
   

1.   Who are the people in your life you need to forgive?

2.   How do you see the effects of unforgiveness in your life?

3.   Any fears about forgiving?





 Forgiveness is the great evidence that we have become new creatures in Christ and that the Spirit of Christ lives within us. 

·        Personal Reflection
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·        Sometimes we think we have already dealt with a person or an issue, yet it comes creeping back into our hearts. That’s because there can be layers of unforgiveness, especially if the offense was severe or happened over a long period of time.


·        Sometimes we may hold unforgiveness, bitterness and even resentment in our hearts towards a person. We may even hold some bitterness toward God for allowing some things to happen in our lives. 
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·        Even after we may have consciously forgiven someone, we may still have recurring memories of the situation...
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·         "To forgive is to set a prisoner free and discover the prisoner was you." -Corrie ten Boom
·        Closing prayer:  
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·        Heavenly Father, I ask that You heal now the wounded places in my (our) soul(s). Heal my memory of those offenses so that I can look back on them realistically, knowing that they were hurtful but also knowing that You Lord, have healed the hurt. And use those experiences for the healing of others that I have come in contact with. 

Some other thoughts on forgiveness

 

The Key to Joy!

 

Spiritual Laws & Forgiveness 

 

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