Tuesday, June 28, 2016

The Key to Joy: It's all about "Relationships", "Communication" and "Forgiveness"!....



As my good friend Ron says, "It's all about relationships".

 With "social media"...it's about "friends", "connections" and "followers".

If you can't wait to get to the end of this post...It's all about Forgiveness!


Over the course of time, I have added, "Yes, and it's all about Communication."
Communication, Communication, Communication.

All about Relationships: Yes, with Jesus through God our Father...and then relationship with each other.

To develop any relationship, we need to listen and to communicate.

So it's all about Communication, Communication Communication.

With God, we communicate through Prayer.

With each other, we communicate in many ways.

But in any relationship...even with the best of Relationship and Communication, we mess up. It's called sin.

With God we can repent and ask for forgiveness.

So to complete the circle...I have added yes, and it's all about Forgiveness.
Forgiveness, Forgiveness, Forgiveness.

"To forgive is to set a prisoner free and discover the prisoner was you." -Corrie ten Boom



Just as we can have a relationship with God, through Jesus Christ and with each other...We can communicate our love  and needs to Him and also to other...but in the process we have a tendency to mess up. But again, we can ask God for forgiveness...and as He has made His forgiveness available to us, we then also need to forgive each other.


Alot of times...when there is a lack of joy in our lives and we have forgiven others and ourselves...we might forget to forgive our parents for real or imaginary hurts. Perception is real. 



"Therefore, as God's chosen people, holy and clearly loved, clothe yourselves with compassion, kindness, humility, gentleness and patience. Bear with each other and forgive whatever grievances you may have against one another. Forgive as the LORD forgave you. And over all these virtues put on love, which binds them all together in perfect unity."  Romans 3:12-14

As Eugene H. Peterson says in The Message: Matthew 6: "In prayer there is a connection between what God does and what you do. You can't get forgiveness from God, for instance, without also forgiving others. If you refuse to do your part, you cut yourself off from God's part." 

"To forgive is to set a prisoner free and discover the prisoner was you." -Corrie ten Boom

  So how can we NOT forgive others?

As we truly experience God's forgiveness and grace, it's then pretty easy to forgive others! Or at least it should be!


So, do we have joy?




If not, might be a good time to examine our relationships with others...our spouse, family members and maybe more important to examine our relationships with our parents...if we still have living parents. 

I also remember a verse from the Bible in Exodus 20:12  "Honor your father and your mother, so that you may live long in the land the LORD your God is giving you."


So don't forget to forgive parents, even if they are long gone! Time is short, eternity is long.  

As Don Wilkerson says, "Never be defined by your past. It's a lesson not a life sentence.”

"To forgive is to set a prisoner free and discover the prisoner was you." -Corrie ten Boom

 "Behold, how good and how pleasant it is for brethren to dwell together in unity." Psalm 133:1
As Dietrich Bonhoeffer In Life Together says, "this is the Scriptures' praise of life together under the Word. But now we can rightly interpret the words "in unity" and say, "for brethren to dwell together through Christ."  For Jesus Christ alone is our unity. "He is our peace.
Through him alone do we have access to one another, joy in one another, and fellowship with one another."

A parent's greatest joy is found in this verse: "I have no greater joy than to hear that  my children are walking in the truth." 3 John:4

When we do that...we can truly have JOY! 

 

Maybe not as easy as it sounds!

 

There IS help available!

 

 

Check out this book;

Solutions: Relational healing for the next generation

by Cathy Morrill with Wendy Coy and the cross/fire team.

For young people, but any age can benefit! 

 It's a PDF of the complete book!  

Check out the Table of Contents...but here are a few key truths about life!

See P. 87: Not the Brady Bunch...Every family has a story.

See P. 98: Forgiveness..."Forgiveness heals. It removes bitterness and sin from our hearts, and gives Jesus more room..."

 See p.122: Mom, Dad & Me. "Our heavenly Fther really cares. he has not left us to work out our relationships on our own. Family is His idea and He has the power to bring change."


As a first step in relational healing, I highly recommend this book!

 

It was part of a ministry called "The River" many years ago.

 

Cathy's blog! 




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Another good resource is Celebrate Recovery, with chapters all around the country.

 

A very good program for Believers also! 

 

Celebrate Recovery is a Christ-centered program with foundations firmly established in Biblical truth. The 12 Steps with accompanying Scriptures and the 8 Principles based on the Beatitudes offer participants a clear path of salvation and discipleship; bringing hope, freedom, sobriety, healing, and the opportunity to give back one day at a time through our one and only true Higher Power, Jesus Christ.  The 12 Steps and the 8 Principles work seamlessly together, tying historical recovery to timeless Biblical teaching.

 

  Celebrate Recovery Ministry & Principles


Sometimes the hurt, grief or trauma is so great that you may need help.
Different Christian denominations may have their own resources, but a good national Christian Ministry, Stephen Ministry is available in most metro areas of the U.S. A short video  A one on one weekly meeting with a trained counseler that can last as long as one year.

Living Waters is another ministry which helps with Anger, Unforgiveness and many other issues. A 20 week program


With all the relationships we have..."Friends", "Connections", "Followers"...Best to start with God. 

 

So, there are many resources available, but you need to take the first step...that is after the Holy Spirit nudges you!  

 

"To forgive is to set a prisoner free and discover the prisoner was you." -Corrie ten Boom

 

As Don Wilkerson says, "Never be defined by your past. It's a lesson not a life sentence.”

 

    

 

My early childhood life

 

 

Finding true peace with God 



 Further thoughts on Forgiveness

 

 More thought on Forgiveness on my Twitter

Friday, June 24, 2016

You are special and unique!


Some Basic Foundations!
1.                 You are not an accident!
Isaiah 44:2 (I am your creator. You were in my care even before you were born)

2.                 Before you were conceived, God thought of you. Not fate, chance, luck or coincidence you are breathing here at this very moment. 

3.                 Bible says, “The Lord will fulfill His purpose for me” Psalm 138:8

4.                 God chose every detail of your body. Race, color of skin, hair, every feature. Also your natural talents…your personality. Psalm 1 39:15-16

5.                 Sometimes emphasis on spiritual gifts…not the other things!

6        That creative process did not stop at childbirth. 

7.                 God has been molding and shaping you over the years with a care that exceeds that of the most meticulous craftsman.

8.                 He put you in a unique family. 

9.                 He gave you a unique personality. 

10.                 He has given you unique abilities, and He has woven a unique assortment of motivators into the very fabric of your life 

11.            God made you absolutely unique for a purpose. 

12.            Eph. 1:4 God’s motive for creating you? Love. 

13.            God designed world’s environment so we could live in it. James 1:18

14.            Most important of all the things He made! YOU. 

15.            God made you for a reason!

16.            Part of His plan. 

17.            Precious and perfect unique design. 

18.            God’s special woman or man. 

19.            He made you like He wanted you to be. 

20.            Parents you had were the ones He chose. (no matter how bad a childhood we may have had). 

21.            May have to struggle with this…and forgive parents.   If we had a less than ideal childhood. 

22.            Guess what? WE ALL had a less than ideal childhood. 

Dreams
Many of us give up on our dreams. 

We simply don’t believe they could happen. 

Or we learned that they were unrealistic, or others didn’t support us in them.

We need to have dreams and visions. God wants us to think BIG!!

God wants to give you dreams, visions and gifts.  They are important and the body of Christ will not be complete if you don’t have them!

Dreams and visions can include:
          Ministry vision
          Helping people
          Relationally-marriage, family
          Relating to God in certain ways-intimacy
          Friendships

Purpose motivates your life! Purpose driven Life book. 

Purpose produces “Passion” (What excites you…what drives you…what makes you get up in the morning raring to go? Do you get up raring to go? (wait for a response…

When you fully comprehend that there is more to life than just here and now, and you realize that life is just preparation for eternity…you will begin to live differently. Living in Light of Eternity. Will make a difference how you handle every relationship, task and circumstance. 

What makes you tick?

What is your passion, the spark that needs only a little breeze to ignite into a raging fire?

What do you enjoy so much that you’d do it without pay?

What gives you a deep sense of satisfaction and purpose?

What do you feel you are missing in your life?

Remember: You are unique!




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Thursday, June 23, 2016

Making the most of every opportunity


In the great orchestra we call life...

"There are things only  you can do,
          and you are alive to do them.

In the great Orchestra we call life,
          you have an instrument and a song,

and you owe it to God to play them both sublimely."

Max Lucado: Quote is from his book, The Applause Of Heaven.

Play on

 "Show me, O LORD, my life's end and the number of my days; let me know how fleeting is my life." Psalm 39:4

"Be very careful, then, how you live-not as unwise but as wise, making the most of every opportunity, because the days are evil. Therefore do not be foolish, but understand what the Lord's will is." Ephesians 5: 15-17

"If it is possible, as far as it depends on you, live  at peace with everyone." Romans 12:18

"Make every effort to live in peace with all men and to be holy; without holiness no one will see the LORD" Hebrews 12:14

"Be wise in the way you act toward outsiders; make the most of every opportunity."  Colossians 4:5

"Delight yourself in the LORD and he will give you the desires of your heart." Psalm 37:4

"God has created each of us with a unique contribution to make in our world and our times. No other person has our same abilities, motivations, network of friends and relationships, perspectives, ideas, or experiences. When we, like misplaced puzzle pieces, fail to show up, the overall picture is diminished."   Richard Stearns: President of World Vision U.S.
Quote from his book: The Hole in our Gospel

"For we are God's workmanship,
created in Christ Jesus to do good works,
which God prepared in advance for us to do."

Ephesians 2:10 NIV

"And let us consider how we may spur one another on toward love and good deeds. Let us not give up meeting together as some are in the habit of doing, but let us encourage one another-and all the more as you see the Day approaching." Hebrews 10:24-25

Ability to see with the eyes of God, think with the mind of Christ, and walk in the power of the Holy Spirit! 

A good prayer!
Have a great day!
You are special!



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