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Monday, July 27, 2026

How to find most anything on my blog!


 

In 2016, I began a blog called Bloom Where You Are Planted.

The title reflected a conviction that had been developing within me for many years: God places each of us in particular circumstances, relationships, communities, careers, and seasons of life for a purpose.

We are called to become rooted and grounded in Christ, grow in faith, and use the passions, abilities, spiritual gifts, strengths, and experiences God has entrusted to us. As we do, our lives can bloom—encouraging others and bringing glory and honor to the Lord.

As Paul wrote:

“Whatever you do, do it all for the glory of God.” —1 Corinthians 10:31

A Blog That Was Never Intended to Be About Me

Although I have shared many personal stories during the past ten years, this blog is not—and never was—intended primarily to be about me.

My experiences are simply illustrations of God’s faithfulness and providence. When I write about my work, marriage, ministry, decisions, disappointments, grief, or hopes for the future, my desire is that these stories point beyond me.

They should point people to their Creator—Jesus Christ, my Lord and Savior.

Jesus is the source of our identity, purpose, gifts, calling, strength, and eternal hope. We do not bloom merely through positive thinking, determination, or personal accomplishment. Lasting spiritual fruit grows as we remain rooted in Christ.

Jesus said:

“I am the vine; you are the branches. If you remain in me and I in you, you will bear much fruit.” —John 15:5

That is the foundation of Bloom Where You Are Planted.

Ten Years of Topics—and One Continuing Story

Looking back over the categories from my first ten years of writing is almost like opening a spiritual scrapbook.

The subjects include faith, Jesus, prayer, worship, church, forgiveness, providence, passion, vision, mission, work, career, volunteering, neighborhood, planning, decision-making, legacy, grief, and heaven.

There are also subjects connected to my personal history: Milwaukee, lettuce farming, family names, LinkedIn, websites, and the growing influence of our online world.

One category has become especially personal: Naomi.

Together, these words tell the story of a life journey. More importantly, they reveal some of the ways God works through ordinary people, places, experiences, relationships, and changing seasons.

An Easily Searchable Collection of Topics

One advantage of the blog is that readers do not have to search through ten years of posts chronologically.

The blog includes a visible Labels section containing all the categories and subjects I have written about. Readers can quickly see the variety of topics and click any label that interests them.

Clicking faith, for example, brings together posts related to faith. Selecting Naomi, grief, prayer, providence, vision, work, or volunteering opens the posts connected with that particular subject.

In that sense, the blog has become more than a record of when something was written. It is a growing collection of reflections organized around many of the questions and experiences that shape our lives.

Readers may arrive because they are:

  • Grieving the loss of someone they love
  • Reconsidering their purpose or calling
  • Seeking God’s direction for an important decision
  • Thinking about their work, service, or retirement
  • Wondering how to use their gifts
  • Reflecting on the legacy they will leave
  • Looking for ways to serve within their neighborhood
  • Seeking a deeper relationship with Jesus

They can choose the subject most relevant to them and explore those posts directly.

On a computer, the labels are displayed as part of the blog’s public layout. On a phone or smaller device, readers may need to scroll farther down the page to find them. Each label is a clickable doorway into the posts connected with that subject.

The First Season: Faith, Work, and Calling

Much of my earlier writing focused on helping people discover how their faith could influence their work, careers, neighborhoods, and volunteer service.

I have long believed that ministry is not confined to a church building or formal Christian organization. Our mission field may be an office, farm, school, neighborhood, business, senior community, volunteer organization, or conversation over coffee.

God can use our entire life story.

Our passions may reveal what deeply concerns us. Our abilities and strengths help us recognize what we can do well. Our spiritual gifts point toward the ways God may work through us. Even our disappointments, losses, and previous experiences can prepare us to encourage and serve someone else.

Nothing surrendered to God needs to be wasted.

A New Season: Naomi, Grief, and Legacy

My writing changed after my wife, Naomi, went to her eternal home with Christ on November 8, 2024.

After 45 years of marriage, her life and mine were deeply intertwined. We shared our family, faith, ministries, decisions, disappointments, joys, and daily routines. We also shared her long journey through polycystic kidney disease and dialysis.

Since her passing, grief, heaven, remembrance, and legacy have naturally become more prominent in my writing.

At times, I have wondered whether I have moved away from the original purpose of Bloom Where You Are Planted.

But perhaps the message has not changed. Perhaps I am simply learning to live it in a different season.

Blooming does not always mean beginning an exciting project or accomplishing something publicly visible. Sometimes blooming means remaining rooted in Christ when life has changed forever. Sometimes it means allowing grief to deepen our compassion. Sometimes it means remembering a loved one with gratitude while remaining open to the life God still places before us.

Naomi’s story is now inseparable from mine. Remembering her does not have to prevent me from moving forward, and moving forward does not mean leaving her behind.

Her faith, compassion, nursing career, ministry, and care for others remain part of the legacy God entrusted to our family. When I tell her story, I do not want the focus to remain only on Naomi or me. I want our shared story to point to the God who brought us together, sustained us through 45 years of marriage, and finally welcomed Naomi into His presence.

The Message Is Still the Same

Ten years later, I still believe we are called to bloom where God has planted us.

But I understand that message more deeply now.

Being planted does not necessarily mean remaining permanently in one place or continuing the same assignment forever. God may transplant us into unfamiliar circumstances. A career may end. Children may move away. Health may change. A spouse may enter heaven. A ministry opportunity may close while another slowly begins to appear.

The setting changes, but God remains faithful.

Our responsibility is not to force ourselves to bloom according to someone else’s timetable. It is to keep our roots in Christ, receive the nourishment He provides, and remain available for whatever growth He chooses to bring.

The words that describe my blog’s first ten years—faith, vision, service, work, neighborhood, Naomi, grief, providence, and legacy—are not merely separate subjects. They are interconnected chapters in one continuing journey.

That journey is about recognizing God’s presence and purpose in every season and pointing others toward Jesus.

Where Has God Planted You?

As I enter the next chapter, I continue to ask:

  • Where has God planted me now?
  • What has He already placed in my hands?
  • Who is within the three feet around me whom I can encourage?
  • How can my experiences—including grief and loss—become a source of compassion for someone else?
  • What would it mean to bloom faithfully in this season without forcing the outcome?
  • How can my life point someone toward Jesus?

Perhaps these are worthwhile questions for all of us.

Wherever you are planted today—in your family, career, church, neighborhood, retirement, grief, or an unexpected transition—remain rooted and grounded in Christ.

Keep growing.

Keep serving.

Keep trusting God with the season.

Keep pointing others toward Jesus.

And, in His time and for His glory, keep blooming.

Visit Bloom Where You Are Planted, look through the complete list of labels, and select any subject that speaks to where you are in your journey today.



Friday, May 22, 2020

The Key to Joy!

The Key to Joy: It's all about "Relationships", "Communication" and "Forgiveness"!....



As my good friend Ron says, "It's all about relationships".

 With "social media"...it's about "friends", "connections" and "followers".

If you can't wait to get to the end of this post...It's all about Forgiveness!


Over the course of time, I have added, "Yes, and it's all about Communication."
Communication, Communication, Communication.

All about Relationships: Yes, with Jesus through God our Father...and then relationship with each other.

To develop any relationship, we need to listen and to communicate.

So it's all about Communication, Communication Communication.

With God, we communicate through Prayer.

With each other, we communicate in many ways.

But in any relationship...even with the best of Relationship and Communication, we mess up. It's called sin.

With God we can repent and ask for forgiveness.

So to complete the circle...I have added yes, and it's all about Forgiveness.
Forgiveness, Forgiveness, Forgiveness.

"To forgive is to set a prisoner free and discover the prisoner was you." -Corrie ten Boom



Just as we can have a relationship with God, through Jesus Christ and with each other...We can communicate our love  and needs to Him and also to other...but in the process we have a tendency to mess up. But again, we can ask God for forgiveness...and as He has made His forgiveness available to us, we then also need to forgive each other.


Alot of times...when there is a lack of joy in our lives and we have forgiven others and ourselves...we might forget to forgive our parents for real or imaginary hurts. Perception is real. 



"Therefore, as God's chosen people, holy and clearly loved, clothe yourselves with compassion, kindness, humility, gentleness and patience. Bear with each other and forgive whatever grievances you may have against one another. Forgive as the LORD forgave you. And over all these virtues put on love, which binds them all together in perfect unity."  Romans 3:12-14

As Eugene H. Peterson says in The Message: Matthew 6: "In prayer there is a connection between what God does and what you do. You can't get forgiveness from God, for instance, without also forgiving others. If you refuse to do your part, you cut yourself off from God's part." 

"To forgive is to set a prisoner free and discover the prisoner was you." -Corrie ten Boom

  So how can we NOT forgive others?

As we truly experience God's forgiveness and grace, it's then pretty easy to forgive others! Or at least it should be!


So, do we have joy?



If not, might be a good time to examine our relationships with others...our spouse, family members and maybe more important to examine our relationships with our parents...if we still have living parents. 

I also remember a verse from the Bible in Exodus 20:12  "Honor your father and your mother, so that you may live long in the land the LORD your God is giving you."


So don't forget to forgive parents, even if they are long gone! Time is short, eternity is long.  

As Don Wilkerson says, "Never be defined by your past. It's a lesson not a life sentence.”

"To forgive is to set a prisoner free and discover the prisoner was you." -Corrie ten Boom

 "Behold, how good and how pleasant it is for brethren to dwell together in unity." Psalm 133:1
As Dietrich Bonhoeffer In Life Together says, "this is the Scriptures' praise of life together under the Word. But now we can rightly interpret the words "in unity" and say, "for brethren to dwell together through Christ."  For Jesus Christ alone is our unity. "He is our peace.
Through him alone do we have access to one another, joy in one another, and fellowship with one another."

A parent's greatest joy is found in this verse: "I have no greater joy than to hear that  my children are walking in the truth." 3 John:4

When we do that...we can truly have JOY!


Friday, January 17, 2020

Why I Get Up in the Morning



 To continue in my relationship with God, through His Son Jesus Christ, so that  I can:
1.     Be close to Him
2.     Worship Him
3.     Be a fragrant offering to Him
4.     To be a reflection of God into the world
5.     Be Holy as He is holy
6.     Show His love to the world…my family and neighbors
7.     Be an encouragement to people who He brings in my path
8.      

Pastor Matts sermon on August 25th 2019  Prayer as Soul Shaping
     Prayer As -Soul Shaping With God.
Praying regularly for others
My limitations do NOT limit what God can do in prayer!
Colossians 1:9 

For this reason, since the day we heard about you, we have not stopped praying for you. We continually ask God to fill you with the knowledge of his will through all the wisdom and understanding that the Spirit gives,[

Praying for knowledge of God’s will through all spiritual wisdom and understanding…
Praying to Live Worthy of the Lord

Colossians 1:10-14
 10 so that you may live a life worthy of the Lord and please him in every way: bearing fruit in every good work, growing in the knowledge of God, 11 being strengthened with all power according to his glorious might so that you may have great endurance and patience, 12 and giving joyful thanks to the Father, who has qualified you[a] to share in the inheritance of his holy people in the kingdom of light. 13 For he has rescued us from the dominion of darkness and brought us into the kingdom of the Son he loves, 14 in whom we have redemption, the forgiveness of sins.

1                 Bear fruit of the Spirit
2                 Knowledge of God
3                 Patience
4                 Joy and gratitude

Bottom Line:
Living it out…not just knowledge or words, but Blooming Where I am planted …now.

Thursday, March 14, 2019

A few thoughts on Forgiveness

Relections on "The Parable of the Unmerciful Servant: Matthew 18:21-35

My notes for a teaching at a local men's group.


Some questions we may want to ask ourselves about “Forgiveness” or just some
 thoughts for further Reflection! 

At HOME…Alone!.

1.    Have you  had good or bad experiences with forgiveness?

2.    Are you in the habit of forgiving people for ways in which they  have hurt you?

3.    Have others forgiven you for the ways you have hurt them?

4.    Do you recall any particular experiences of receiving God’s forgiveness?

5.    Who are the people in your life that you need to forgive?

6.    How do you see the effects of unforgiveness in your life?

7.    What are you fears about forgiving certain people?

8.    Do we have a list in our minds of people who have wronged us, mistreated us, hurt us or mistreated us? 

9.    Sometimes there is no “list”, but a undercurrent or “bitterness” in our lives…like a low grade fever, 100 degrees, not 103. Just an uneasy feeling that can poison our relationships….that eventually can erupt into some terrible actions….”As we think in our heart…so are we.”

10. Sometimes we are like a frog in the water…increasing the temp…and we don’t know what’s happening…we know what happened to the frog!

11.On our way to church…spouse, kids in car…

12.Matt: 18 is all about relationships…among brothers…and how to deal with sin. 

13.Then Peter asks How many times to forgive? 

14.Especially about his “brother”  Present relationship.

15.All about relationships.

16.All about communication

17.All about forgiveness.

18.Then JOY, Circles.

19.Eisenhower and his method. Crumpled paper in wastebasket.

20.He then forgot, but did he.

21.We can do the same.

22.How big is our wastebasket?

23.Are we really forgiving, or just forgetting for the moment…and the wastebasket get fuller and fuller. …Then we can get a paper shredder…smaller pieces…over a lifetime….what is happening?

24.Our families, churches.

25.Forgiveness. Seven times or seventy x seven….It’s really unlimited forgiveness.

26.We are to overflow with forgiveness.

27.The reason I forgive is because of the Lord’s forgiving me, not because of the person who hurt me!

28.It is impossible to receive forgiveness from God and NOT give it to another. 

29.An unforgiving spirit. Do we have one and maybe don’t even know it?

30.S.I McMillen in his book None of These Diseases, says,
"The moment I start hating a man I become his slave. He even controls my thoughts, I can’t escape his tyrannical grasp on my minds. When the waiter serves me steak it might as well be stale bread and water. The man I hate will not permit me to enjoy it.” Obviously as Christian men, we don’t or won’t admit that we hate someone.  What is hate?

31.Dislike or….?

32.Some bottom line thoughts.

33.The source of forgiveness is Gods forgiveness.

34.Until we see ourselves as truly and deeply sinful, we will see nothing else clearly.   Wow!

35.The refusal to forgive is costly. 

36.What did your sin do to God?

37.Think about it!

38.Not a once and for all event. 

39.Need to forgive daily. 

40.The secret of forgiveness is grace.

41.Grace received means grace given.

42.“Be kind and compassionate to one another, forgiving each other, just as in Christ God forgave you.” Eph 4:32

43.Forgiveness is the great evidence that we have become new creatures in Christ and that the Spirit of Christ lives within us. 

44.The cross is where we receive forgiveness and where we learn to forgive. 

45.Who do we need to bring to the cross,? Spouse, parent, child, friend, neighbor, pastor, one of the men here?

Reflections on The Parable of "The Unforgiving Servant." Matthew: 18:21-35




Why did Peter ask the question?

Was he repeatedly hurt by a brother? Or is this just a story that Jesus told to illustrate a point or teaching?

The obvious lesson of the parable is “Unlimited Forgiveness”

We can all agree on that!  Right? Ok?

But there may or can be more to the story as Paul Harvey used to say.

Something specific that the LORD wants THIS group to understand.

When we are repeatedly hurt…and really do forgive the person…are we immediately healed of the hurt?

Not necessarily!

Example of friend who was repeatedly hurt…and forgave the people…but had a sort of “low grade fever”. As he said.  Not really incapacitated, but like feeling alittle under the weather so to speak. 

Divorce, estranged family members, etc.

Some things are easy to forgive. But there may be bigger things that we haven’t fully dealt with. Maybe don’t know how to or what to do next.

Process:

1.    Need to see the person, not just in light of how he or she hurt, wronged us,…, but through God’s eyes.

2.    Then we can/may see him or her as the wounded and weak one he or she really is.

3.    Whether the person unintentionally or intentionally hurt us, the process is the same.

4.    Forgiving people who hurt us on a day to day basis enables us to forgive those who have deeply wounded us. Not just a one time event.

5.    Healing starts with asking Jesus into this process and into our heart and mind. Only Jesus can heal completely.

A few steps:

6.    Name the ways you were hurt and the sin done to you.

7.    Perception vs. Reality…

8.    Tell God how you feel. Speak from your heart.

9.    Ask Him to show you what He does with the sin that was done against or to you.

10.Ask Him to cleanse and heal you. 


11.Now, choose to forgive the person.

12.Easier said than done. You already have forgiven the person,,,right?

13.Ask God to forgive the person.

14.Now confess to the Lord the sin (your sin) of holding onto unforgiveness and it’s effects on you…all these years. 

15.Relationships MAY be restored…not maybe not always.

16.Reconciliation is NOT always possible.

17.It may take time…

18.Forgiveness has been started.

19.Healing may take time.


20.With Jesus living in us and empowering us to forgive…we can then forgive those who have hurt us. 

21.“Forgive us our debts, as we also have forgiven our debtors…Mat. 6:12

22.Unforgiveness effects our relationship with God and others.

23.It’s NOT just an issue we have with one particular brother…

24.It effects ALL our relationships. Our spouses, children, parents especially, and the our co workers, neighbors, friends, relatives, CHURCH members!

What is Sin? Real or imaginary? Perception is Reality!
   

1.   Who are the people in your life you need to forgive?

2.   How do you see the effects of unforgiveness in your life?

3.   Any fears about forgiving?





 Forgiveness is the great evidence that we have become new creatures in Christ and that the Spirit of Christ lives within us. 

·        Personal Reflection
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·        Sometimes we think we have already dealt with a person or an issue, yet it comes creeping back into our hearts. That’s because there can be layers of unforgiveness, especially if the offense was severe or happened over a long period of time.


·        Sometimes we may hold unforgiveness, bitterness and even resentment in our hearts towards a person. We may even hold some bitterness toward God for allowing some things to happen in our lives. 
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·        Even after we may have consciously forgiven someone, we may still have recurring memories of the situation...
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·         "To forgive is to set a prisoner free and discover the prisoner was you." -Corrie ten Boom
·        Closing prayer:  
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·        Heavenly Father, I ask that You heal now the wounded places in my (our) soul(s). Heal my memory of those offenses so that I can look back on them realistically, knowing that they were hurtful but also knowing that You Lord, have healed the hurt. And use those experiences for the healing of others that I have come in contact with. 

Some other thoughts on forgiveness

 

The Key to Joy!

 

Spiritual Laws & Forgiveness 

 

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